I always believed it is important not to do out-integrity. I always opposed restoration as I feel that when you do restoration, you allow yourself to do out-integrity again. I always told my coach also, not to allow restoration as that is like giving license to do out-integrity.
And now I believe, we humans are built to do out-integrity and we can’t escape it, because that’s the design. When we do out-integrity and don’t restore, we simply lose the relationship with the person eventually.
Restoration is awesome when used wisely, to build and maintain the relationships.