we don’t listen, we imagine

We don’t listen to what is said, we hear what we imagine it to be.

Many times it has happened, when someone is saying something to me, I pick it the way I want. This is based on my imagination and fear. Because of the fear of rejection and of imagination that I might be criticised, my mind imagine it’s own version, instead of what has been told.

This equally is true the other way too, sometimes if someone criticises, my mind takes positivity of it because I imagine it that way.

What does that mean? Is it all in the head? We hear only what we want to hear based on our past experiences, fear and imagination.